Was your TTC period romantic? We're you able to make it special? Was it planned or did your little miracle surprise you?
If you've read any of my previous posts you will know that my first pregnancy was 2 years in the making. After that long it was still intimate . We did have days where because of hormones and scheduled sex it seems kind of routine by we would joke and make it playful. It's very hard but important to keep it light. If you have issues TTC the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner is try and relax.
On this same note I'd like to tell you how less sexy my second pregnancy came about.
My husband and I after quite a few discussions decided we wanted another baby. My son was 10 months at the time and we agreed that we wanted me to be able to get maternity leave again. To do that I would need to wait until I went back to work before we could start trying.
I was so excited and booked an appointment with my OB/GYN. Because of my past fertility issues I wanted to be ready for when the time came for us to get working on our newest addition! My doctor however informed me that child birth can often put your body to normal even if it wasn't before! He said that my husband and I would need to TTC for 6 months before he would look at prescribing me fertility treatments. I was both saddened and saw a little glimmer of hope that maybe just maybe I could do this on my own!
I EBF my son for 6.5 months and then pumped for an additional 2 weeks so my first period didnt show up until shortly before my visit with my doctor. This made me scared that I might not succeed but I felt determined to try.
By the time I went back to work I ha only had 2 periods. I noticed though that they were about every 6 weeks apart! This is a huge improvement from unpredictable 9-12 pre pregnancy. I had no guarantee they would continue on this routine but I hoped.
Now if you have every used fertility drugs to try an conceive you were likely told to every other day baby dance from day 12-18 to ensure you had swimmers in there at time of ovulation. Well because I wasn't sure when I would finally ovate we couldn't plan that way. But we decided well if we don't know the week we would be intimate every other night until we got a BFP!!!
As someone who very much enjoys sex with my husband on a very regular basis this thought seemed amazing!
Here is where it gets completely unromantic... My husband was working a night shift. He started work at 4pm and ended work at 2am, home by 3am. I work days. I was up at 5am to get myself and our son ready, took him to daycare, started for at 8am was off at 4:30pm home by 6(long commute). I had just enough time to feed my son and bath him before bed with about 20 min of mommy baby time. This was exhausting. See the problem was our conflicting schedules. If you review the above you will note the only time we were both at home was from 3am-6am. The first week this was not a problem. Our every thee night rendezvous was hot! By week two it was still fun but this working mama was getting TIRED. By week 3... Ok I'm not proud but I'm pretty sure one night while half asleep I said just get in done and go shower! LOL we were still able to have sexy nights on the weekends but the weekdays were just as quick as possible so I could go back to sleep before work.
I love my husband and still don't mind being woken up for sex but every other night turned out to be way to much for me.... However... IT WORKED!!!
After 2.5 months of trying to conceive we did! I was exhausted. It wasn't unenjoyable but i felt like I worked almost as hard in that time as I did the whole two years the first time.
I don't regret a single moment and I recommend it as a way to get pregnant! Just try as we did on the weekends to make sure that you keep some intimacy in your baby making. It's important. After your babies are grown up your partner is who you have left. Don't ever forget to make them feel important for more than just half of the chemistry in your tiny love.
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